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If I had $37 ‎ to give to charity, I'd give some of it to a ‎ that would invent an ‎ Meter. That way we could ‎ who is headed for ‎ and who for ‎. We could figure out which ‎ are ‎ and which are sick.
In humans, oxytocin ‎ ‎ during ‎, breast ‎ and romance. Humans with higher oxytocin ‎ are more ‎ to ‎ other people. They are more ‎ to ‎ and ‎ phobias. Humans ‎ to ‎ delicious oxytocin ‎ in the ‎ after being with someone they love. It's no ‎ neuroscientists — ‎ the ‎ ‎ for which they are famous — have nicknamed oxytocin "the ‎ ‎.
I figure if we can hang Oxytocin Meters ‎ people's ‎, we can tell who is ‎ in healthy ‎ and who isn't. If you walked into an office where nobody is having an oxytocin moment, then you'd know you're in a ‎ ‎ and it's time to get out of there.
Now I'm not really trying to ‎ all human ‎ to one hormone. But I am trying to emphasize the ‎ of human ‎. We in the ‎ world ‎ education, ‎ rates, poverty, productivity and competitiveness, and we try to figure out which ‎ ‎ need to thrive in the new economy. But often it's the space between ‎ that really matters, the ‎ of their attachments.
Attachment ‎ has been thriving for decades, but it's had little ‎ on public ‎. That's because the ‎ world is a ‎ for people who are emotionally ‎. If you go to a Congressional hearing and talk ‎, you are ‎ like a serious ‎ ‎, but if you start talking about ‎, people ‎ at you as if you're Oprah.
But everything we're ‎ about the ‎ confirms the ‎ of attachments to human ‎ and the wisdom of Adam Smith's observation that the "‎ part of human ‎ arises from the consciousness of being beloved." (Brain research rarely ‎ anything new about human ‎; it just tells you which of the old ‎ are most important.)
And so maybe it's time to ‎ a little less on ‎ ‎ and more on ‎ attachment. Let me give you an example of what I mean.
Over the past few decades federal and state governments have spent ‎ of dollars trying to ‎ high schools. Much of the ‎ has gone into trying to ‎ ‎ math and reading scores. But the ‎ have been modest and up to 30 ‎ of students drop out — a ‎ ‎.
The dropout rates are ‎ because humans are not machines into which you can input data. They ‎ emotion to ‎ information. You take kids who didn't ‎ from ‎, nurturing parental ‎ and who have not ‎ how to form human attachments, and you stick them in a school that ‎ like a factory for information transmission, and the ‎ are going to be horrible.
The Gates Foundation ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ with dropouts. The ‎ students knew how ‎ dropping out would be. Most were convinced they could have graduated if they wanted to. But their descriptions of school amounted to a portrait of ‎ ‎: teachers were ‎ out and ‎; discipline was ‎; classes weren't challenging; there weren't enough tutors and wasn't anyone to talk to; ‎ were uninvolved.
If school is unsatisfying but having a child or joining a ‎ ‎ as if it would be emotionally ‎, then many students, ‎ those with ‎ attachments at home, are going to ‎ their ‎ ‎ to go where the attachments ‎ to be.
If I had $37 ‎, I would ‎ it on the ‎ node where attachment ‎ are formed: the parental ‎ during the first few years of life. I'd invest much of it with ‎, like Circle of Security, that help ‎ mothers and fathers develop secure bonds with their own infants, instead of just ‎ the behaviors of their own ‎. I'd ‎ on the real ‎ crisis that ‎ the country. It's not the ‎ shortage. It's the oxytocin shortage.
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